I teach the two things that gave me back my own time.

I did not come to this work through a straight line. I came to it the way most people do — by getting tired enough that the usual answers stopped working.

For years I lived at the speed most of us are taught to live at: busy, productive, and quietly running on empty. I was not ill. I was not in crisis. I was simply never quite present, and I had started to accept that as normal.

The first time I noticed my own breath

Someone guided me through twenty minutes of slow breathing and I cried, which surprised me more than anyone. Nothing dramatic had happened. But for the first time in a long while I was unmistakably inside my own body rather than somewhere ahead of it, and the relief of that was enormous.

That was the beginning of a long, unglamorous apprenticeship. I practised. I read. I sat with teachers and asked too many questions. And gradually the practice stopped being something I did and became the way I meet the world.

Learning sound on Koh Phangan

The sound side of my work began at AUM Sound Healing Center on Koh Phangan, where I studied as a student — learning the gongs, the singing bowls and the discipline of playing for someone else's rest rather than your own performance. Playing a gong well turns out to be mostly about restraint: knowing when not to strike, and trusting that the silence between the tones is doing as much as the tones themselves.

It is a place that teaches by immersion. You are surrounded by people who take this seriously, and you learn as much from the rooms you sit in as from the instruction. I am still learning there.

Learning breath with Patricia (Udipti)

My breathwork training has come from my teacher Patricia, known as Udipti. What she taught me, more than any technique, is patience — that the breath is not a tool to force a state, but a relationship to be kept. She has a way of saying very little and shifting everything, and much of how I hold a room now comes from watching her hold one.

The breath does not need to be mastered. It needs to be met, and then it does the rest.

What I do now

I live on Koh Phangan and I work with people one to one, in small groups, on the beach at sunrise, and online with whoever is awake at the right hour. I play gongs and bowls. I guide breath. I sit with people while they rest.

I am not a doctor and I do not claim to cure anything. What I offer is simpler than that, and I think more useful: a little genuinely undisturbed time with yourself, and some practices small enough that you will still be doing them in six months.

If that sounds like something you need, I would be glad to meet you.